Well, I know what your thinking. Here comes the drama. no one cares to hear your pity party, little boy. Get on with your life and mov eon, there's others out there. Yeah, i know that's what I'll get. Long story short, my girlfriend of 4 months borke up with me, and I wanted to ask all of my fellow lusternians some advice on what to do to help ease the pain. what you did to slow the hurt, and share stories, not just for my sake, but for those in the future that have problems with the unmerciful ways of love.

Music always seems to help me keep my mind off of things, especially any heavy tunes. Not sure if it'd work in this situation, but best of luck to you.

Going out with my friends helped a lot when me and my ex split up, it's a good way to keep your mind off what happened and enjoy yourself.

It's ok to mourn and feel sadness for a time, as apparently this is a great loss for you. Come to terms with the emotions you're feeling, understand why you're feeling that way and just embrace your sorrow for a little bit.

After that, make a resolve to move forward. Also, try not to have anything to do with her.

Don't think about her. Don't send her telepathic messages stating how deep your love is for her...

Don't hang around her favorite spots and "coincidentally" bump into her...

Don't dwell around the places you two used to go on dates and such in hopes of seeing her with someone cuter and/or taller than you. If you do so, the parking lot of said place will be the new bedding for you as you'll be curled up on it in a fetal position with snot running out of your nose...

Seriously, do not try to maintain any ties. It'll only hurt you. Mourn the loss, as I said, and then just move forward.

And have a cookie.

gotta get rid of half my music, then. reminds me of her.

Play lots and lots of Lusternia.
Workout to really loud music
Go out with your friends
Get a job (nevermind if you already have a job)
Think of something you've always wanted to do, but have never done before. Start working on getting to the point so you can do it.

And if all else fails, stick her picture to a dartboard and play to your heart's content.

I'm actually going through kind of the same thing. You know, they're great, but they give us a lot of trouble some times... heh

So, what I do is go to work (which I have to, and is made harder by this actually), play some DDR (I know it's nerdy, but its a video game and exercise), play lusternia (buying credits always makes you feel good), listen to music (for god's sake, Not Death Cab for Cutie, which will make you depressed. Let's say more Blink 182/Newfound Glory).

ALso, the only way to forget something that used to be really awesome, it to replace it. This can't happen immediately. But I've suffered a number of times through massive breakups, and I can see that there are more fish in the sea. It's just... you already know which one you want.

In some situations, there is some kind of a hope of getting back together. I'm not sure about your situation, but in my case, I get too over analytical and I whine about what happened. This makes you look Really bad (I just had a conversation about this topic with a woman, so, I guess It's true). Last night, she said she'd be there for me, and I said the same thing back, and expanded upon it, completely surprising her. You get points for stuff like that.

Be strong, don't think too much. My old band did a song from the poem Invictus, which ALWAYS makes me feel better. If you want it, I can see about you getting a copy of it. Just email me at *gasp* invictus__@hotmail.com

-Marc

It may sound hard, but don't think about her. Keep busy.

You think about her, clean.

You think about her, go out.

You think about her, play Lusternia.

You think about her, take a nap.

Point? Don't think about her, it helps. Time is really the only thing that will heal the pain. but keeping busy will help you ignore the pain.

Don't get rid of your music. I went out with this girl for 2 years, every song on the radio, in my collection, every spot around my city reminded me of her. And 6 years later, still does. I remeber I spent my sorrow in computer games. Muds were kinda hard since it requires so much interpsonal stuff. But if you can thats good too, but I would pick up some fighting games or shooters. And working out is good to, its always nice to feel buff and imagine that you will one day look like bradd pit or something.

but don't get rid of good stuff just because it gives you a memmory.

Just take all the suggestions on board and keep it in the scheme of things: 4 months is a very short period of time for a relationship.

Some advice:
Sea is full of fishes.
If she hasn't stay with you, she wasn't the right one for you. Pity her for being so unlucky and go looking for the right one.
Play Lusternia unless she's in lusternia too (remember, killing her in lusternia wouldn't be good, as is mixing ooc with ic)
Go out with friends, enjoy life.
I used to do one or two days or mourning and depressing music and low lights and candles at home, all the sad stuff, and then somebody else uses to appear. But I am female, I am supposed not to have problems finding replacements.
Think how lucky you are this has come to an end at 4 months, instead of making you lose more time with an inadequate person. Cinism helps sometimes.

Buy Halo 2, an Xbox, and a Xbox live account and play... Alot. Killing people always helps make people feel good. Must be why there are so many wars.

My previous situation actually got worse... But, I found a way around that, kind of.

Most would say it's a bad idea, but I realized that I have known quite a few awesome girls. Somehow, I ended up talking to four of my exes online last night, and afterwards, I didn't think about the last one at all.

And uh, go rent You've Got Mail.

Sometimes exs can be good friends after everything has blown over and you have gotten over the pain and hate there is always a few exceptions though.


Heh, your very lucky it was only four months.
Everyone has good advice, and friends are your most important people around this time, sometimes your parents might even understand if they are easy to talk to.
Music, mates, computers and lots of parties were my outlet.
One otherthing you can do is write down the good and the bad, perferably personality traits, habits things that aren't going to get you all mushy when reading good points though just the facts. The point is to it once you have finshed and you start thinking about her in a good way, read a bad point. You start thinking that she is a devil reincarnate read a good point.

I'm starting to find out about the "good friends" thing. The older I get, the harder it is to maintain a relationship with a female on a purely friends level.

I fought this for a long time too... It might indeed be true.

Though... some of those "good friends" sometimes spend the night. *twiddle*

heh. oddly enough, we got back together a short time after that, about two weeks. now we're going pretty strong once we go tth eissues out in the open. thansk for all the help,guys.

HEHE, maybe only for you Richter To me they are only a friend level. Keep it at that friend level, say no to the sleepovers Although a great friendly casual can be good

Richter raises a good point. All your worries will seem as naught as compared to the hell of watching that movie.

Rofl

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