Hello, I'm Phantasm, and I'm a serial alt-er.

I have been back in Lusternia more than half a year and still can't find a group of other social rejects like I used to hang out with and have such fun with. I've tried to cut it straight and make it in an org. In some of them I've had a great deal of success right off the bat. Others, not so much. I've tried every archetype (except druid, because that's what I was waaaay back and I don't wanna be my old self mk II), and in every org (except Celest, because, well, it's Celest. Nuff said).

My problem is that I have trouble finding a place to 'stick'. I'm highly anti-social (though if I focus on faking it I'm told I'm quite charming), a great RPer (other people's comments, not my own). I'm extremely good at playing the system (I never get hunt/influence burnout and at this point know the world inside and out, and am a regular credit buyer with a membership. I'm a mediocre fighter (but rapidly improving). However, despite not really sucking at anything, I can't seem to find the spot to settle down.

In the places where I fit well I get antsy and can't seem to connect into the RP or feel like I've sacrificed all the other parts of game play for the chance for solid and enjoyable RP. When I finally do seem to click I end up at GR 4-5 in a couple RL days and feel obligated to keep taking on projects, etc, until I get fried out. In other places I just get fed up with people talking in third person, calling everyone 'mister' or acting like they have carte-blanche to be an asshole (even if they do).

So essentially my problem isn't in 'getting in', it's a lack of stamina. I can't seem to find a place where I can stay the course. I'm trying to find somewhere that can feed into my generalist-to-a-specialist-level-in-many-areas style. Somewhere where I can influence/hunt to my heart's content but with involving RP that won't end up with me getting bogged down by over-involving.

I'd appreciate any advice on where to go, and how to stick with it. Can any of you who have broken the alt habit help, or any of you who have established a main and managed to stick with it for the long haul help me figure it out?

I'm very much addicted to alts in other games. I was in Lusternia (many alts came and went before Synl), but then I stuck to my Shadowdancer 'alt'. Because a certain Queen was that awesome. What got me to stick to one place was really just the roleplay catching me and, well, refusing to let go. So the only thing I can suggest is to keep playing alts until something grabs you. To help that along.. uh, not much, really. Guess you could try talking to more people, but that may only push you further away from certain organizations, depending on your own mood. MRRH.

This sounds like your primary issue. Sometimes, work can be addicting, and in the right circumstances this is like keeping a cookie jar in the immediate reach of a sweet tooth at home. You need control. You need to accept that motivating others to do as you do may not be possible. And if someone tells you to relax or take it easy... perhaps just listen to them and avoid taking offence to it in any way. Especially if it comes from a leader! I'm sure they'd rather you end up dropping back a bit to give your 70% rather than have you give your 110% all the time and burn out in a week.

There's not going to be an org that will be the right fit. Chances are, you will need to make a lucky encounter with someone(or two). Keep at it, and good luck.

I only played one character in Lusternia for a very long time, and the only reason I haven't gone back to him is that I don't think he really belongs in the current iteration of Glomdoring. I am playing a different character, now, that I arrived at after several alt experiments, and my plan is to stay with him.

From what you wrote, I don't think the problem is the orgs or the guilds. I think your struggles come largely from yourself (NOTE: That's not a criticism). I think you'll find that, no matter what guild or org you join, you'll keep running into the same wall, and your testimony seems to indicate that's the trend.

The good news is that there's a lot you can do on your end if this is the case. Here are some things you could try:

1 - Clarify what you're looking for. Your account indicates that some of the things you want are unclear to you and possibly contradictory. You can't find what you're looking for if you don't know what it is, and once you know what it is, you need to keep in mind that you may have to prioritize. For instance, vibrant, meaningful RP and long periods of hunting and influencing or being anti-social do not often go together, and you need to account for that in your expectations.

2 - Sort of dovetailing with 1, define what counts as success for you. It -sounds- like success for you counts as getting to a certain point in development with your character, i.e. certain CR, certain GR, certain level. I could be way off. The reason this is important is because your interest will probably start fading once you achieve what counts as success. My goal for my characters are usually "tell/experience a good story." It's a measure of success that's never fully completed and is completely independent of a game mechanic milestone. I'm not saying the latter type of goal is wrong; you just have to accept the reality that once you hit your goal, that helps breed disinterest.

3 - Come up with a reasonably thorough character concept. If your character has a story and complexity, they become more personally interesting to you (and everyone else) and a lot harder to discard than, say, a character in Diablo II. You may already be doing this, but if not, there you go.

4 - Find the right supporting cast. The right group of people can make RPing waiting for a bus interesting. I can't tell you who the right group of people is for you, but probably it's the people who have similar answers to 1 and 2 that you do. You can probably find this group in any org.

I hope this helps somewhat, and even if it doesn't help much at all, I do want to go on the record as saying that, from what you wrote, I don't think your answers are going to be in finding the right org or guild.