Unknown2008-07-10 16:55:49
There's a lot of factors going into that.
1) Is there anything more than just the RP (eg actual OOC feelings)?
2) How mature are both of the roleplayers?
3) How deep do the individuals involved want to take the roleplay?
4) How much time is being spent on the roleplay?
I'd say there's a threshold for maturity, ability to understand roleplay, and level of commitment that allow one to keep these things separate. That said, I find it significantly less messy to simply not get involved in IC relationships with anyone other than the individual I am in a relationship with OOC.
1) Is there anything more than just the RP (eg actual OOC feelings)?
2) How mature are both of the roleplayers?
3) How deep do the individuals involved want to take the roleplay?
4) How much time is being spent on the roleplay?
I'd say there's a threshold for maturity, ability to understand roleplay, and level of commitment that allow one to keep these things separate. That said, I find it significantly less messy to simply not get involved in IC relationships with anyone other than the individual I am in a relationship with OOC.
Druken2008-07-10 17:10:39
I'm pretty robotic when it comes to IC relationships. Eliron, thankfully, gets that. We sometimes commune through messages about a fight the two characters have had or potential future dialogues just to make sure both players are up to speed. We're lovey-dovey in the game, but we're still 'lol'ing' behind the scenes just to keep things sunshine fresh.
I think it's strange that people have trouble with that boundary. Druken is not Shawon and Eliron is not... whatever his name really is. I understand that my style of roleplaying is pretty in-depth, but by that logic, I should be feeling more than I do for Eliron. Unless you're saying that the more amount of time spent roleplaying correlates to the amount of separation there is (roleplaying = recognition that the character is not the player)?
I think it's strange that people have trouble with that boundary. Druken is not Shawon and Eliron is not... whatever his name really is. I understand that my style of roleplaying is pretty in-depth, but by that logic, I should be feeling more than I do for Eliron. Unless you're saying that the more amount of time spent roleplaying correlates to the amount of separation there is (roleplaying = recognition that the character is not the player)?
Saaga2008-07-10 18:09:48
My spouse played Saaga's son who is now inactive. I do not think it could have worked if Snaithy and Auer would have hated each other's guts or something...
The thing is to separate your character from yourself - I admit that Saaga is not always having the best day if I am pissed, but normally I can distance myself from her - so could my spouse.
The thing is to separate your character from yourself - I admit that Saaga is not always having the best day if I am pissed, but normally I can distance myself from her - so could my spouse.
Desitrus2008-07-10 18:13:36
Plus I mean, Snaithy is a paragon of manliness.
Saaga2008-07-10 18:19:33
Heeey! Snaithy's the nicest person IC and OOC
Desitrus2008-07-10 18:26:04
QUOTE(Saaga @ Jul 10 2008, 01:19 PM) 531036
Heeey! Snaithy's the nicest person IC and OOC
I was serious. If I weren't a hetero megaman I'd do him. He just looks so sassy in that Tails shirt.
Eliron2008-07-10 18:37:36
It's definitely possible to keep OOC and IC feelings separate. A lot of it's preference. If people are like me and don't like long distance/internet relationships or giving out personal info, they won't talk OOC often and anything beyond the IC relationship is unlikely.
Part of it's character. Druken's right. He's not Druken and I'm not Eliron. Eliron has different relationship tastes than I do. The relationship between Eliron and Druken is fun or at least entertaining, but feelings aren't going to develop on my part because it's not what I would want in a real life relationship.
Part of it's character. Druken's right. He's not Druken and I'm not Eliron. Eliron has different relationship tastes than I do. The relationship between Eliron and Druken is fun or at least entertaining, but feelings aren't going to develop on my part because it's not what I would want in a real life relationship.
Gwylifar2008-07-10 18:40:47
It's just as hard to have a separate romantic relationship IC and OOC, as to have a separate sense IC and OOC of who you are planning to murder.
Somaria2008-07-10 18:48:59
The thing is, I'm not Somaria. At times, we have similar tendencies, but the bottom line is, I'm not her.
Somaria has soooo many different facets, that it's hard not to identify with her at some point.
The way I've looked at it is this: OOCly, I know that whether directly or indirectly, the fact that I'm with Belloc now will effect my IC character, Somaria. If we have a fight OOC, he might ignore Somaria through Belloc for no reason ICly. If ICly, Somaria and he have a fight (With her it's impossible to avoid arguing at SOME point), or if she has to leave Glomdoring (God forbid), etc etc, he WILL get angry OOCly (Just as he's gotten upset that I don't think I want them together ICly).
Somaria's into things I'm not as well. I don't want Belloc OOCly to randomly come up to me and slap me around thinking it'll give me my jollies. Assertiveness is great, but I'm not into abuse. (Again, Somaria likes randomly beating up people and Belloc returns the favour at times as a joke). I don't like being pursued, prodded at and clung to OOCly either, while Somaria relishes in the attention and tries to think of ways to make use of all the people who do it. OOCly, I enjoy being alone, while ICly, Somaria, 60% of the time, craves the attention. The other 40% is when she HAS it.
=P
Somaria has soooo many different facets, that it's hard not to identify with her at some point.
The way I've looked at it is this: OOCly, I know that whether directly or indirectly, the fact that I'm with Belloc now will effect my IC character, Somaria. If we have a fight OOC, he might ignore Somaria through Belloc for no reason ICly. If ICly, Somaria and he have a fight (With her it's impossible to avoid arguing at SOME point), or if she has to leave Glomdoring (God forbid), etc etc, he WILL get angry OOCly (Just as he's gotten upset that I don't think I want them together ICly).
Somaria's into things I'm not as well. I don't want Belloc OOCly to randomly come up to me and slap me around thinking it'll give me my jollies. Assertiveness is great, but I'm not into abuse. (Again, Somaria likes randomly beating up people and Belloc returns the favour at times as a joke). I don't like being pursued, prodded at and clung to OOCly either, while Somaria relishes in the attention and tries to think of ways to make use of all the people who do it. OOCly, I enjoy being alone, while ICly, Somaria, 60% of the time, craves the attention. The other 40% is when she HAS it.
=P
Kharaen2008-07-10 19:00:22
So this is an area where having split/multiple personalities is a good thing.
Unknown2008-07-10 19:49:44
Looking for a wife.
Orti's a nice Illithoid from the Kalas family. He's cool, funny and will use you just for the baby-making factory inside you.
If interested, call me and not Lazurus.
Orti's a nice Illithoid from the Kalas family. He's cool, funny and will use you just for the baby-making factory inside you.
If interested, call me and not Lazurus.
Somaria2008-07-10 19:57:30
Since you all covered up my ad. -thwaps everyone-
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Looking for a mate for Somaria. Any race excluding Faelings (Unless female). Any organization. Willing to help work through enemy status on either parts.
She is 40 years old.
She is the Mother of Nightmares in the Nekotai.
She is a Chancellor in the Shadowmaze.
She is the clan head of the clan called 'The Mists of Lateo.'
She is a founder of the Makiare` family.
Somaria has plenty of rumors about being a whore for Le Jardin (Hey, either she's skilled in bed as a matron courtesan or people think she is ), and is pretty much hated by the entire basin . She's stubborn, and a bit of a workaholic ... Hmm, what else.. She's fairly business-minded, and tends to seriously take advantage of people who let her due to her time in Fain's Order. (However she really is looking to settle down now)
However, she does have good points. She's undeniably astute. Can BS her way out of most situations and can appreciate someone more for their flaws than strong points. She's adventurous and strong, and devoted to her family. She's good with money, owns a clan and manse (11 rooms and growing; themed with a long and rich history and storyline), and is super active. She hunts- insanely- as a monk and cleans out UV regularly.
Those interested should be somewhat combat-oriented (Som's idea of flirting is playing the 'Who hits harder' game and her favorite dates can sometimes include a bash-fest)
Should be interested in the roleplay aspect of Lusternia as well (Though I enjoy learning about combat, roleplay comes first for me. I can be an RP nazi. Ask any novice who emotes on aethers. ).
Hoping for someone intelligent, with a logical way of thinking. Someone in relatively good standing with their respective organization or guild, or someone attempting to achieve said standing. Progression is her mindset, after all.
In any case, reply or send a PM. Or make it a point to cross paths in one way or another ICly.
She is 40 years old.
She is the Mother of Nightmares in the Nekotai.
She is a Chancellor in the Shadowmaze.
She is the clan head of the clan called 'The Mists of Lateo.'
She is a founder of the Makiare` family.
Somaria has plenty of rumors about being a whore for Le Jardin (Hey, either she's skilled in bed as a matron courtesan or people think she is ), and is pretty much hated by the entire basin . She's stubborn, and a bit of a workaholic ... Hmm, what else.. She's fairly business-minded, and tends to seriously take advantage of people who let her due to her time in Fain's Order. (However she really is looking to settle down now)
However, she does have good points. She's undeniably astute. Can BS her way out of most situations and can appreciate someone more for their flaws than strong points. She's adventurous and strong, and devoted to her family. She's good with money, owns a clan and manse (11 rooms and growing; themed with a long and rich history and storyline), and is super active. She hunts- insanely- as a monk and cleans out UV regularly.
Those interested should be somewhat combat-oriented (Som's idea of flirting is playing the 'Who hits harder' game and her favorite dates can sometimes include a bash-fest)
Should be interested in the roleplay aspect of Lusternia as well (Though I enjoy learning about combat, roleplay comes first for me. I can be an RP nazi. Ask any novice who emotes on aethers. ).
Hoping for someone intelligent, with a logical way of thinking. Someone in relatively good standing with their respective organization or guild, or someone attempting to achieve said standing. Progression is her mindset, after all.
In any case, reply or send a PM. Or make it a point to cross paths in one way or another ICly.
Unknown2008-07-11 01:12:13
QUOTE(Corinthian @ Jul 10 2008, 02:49 PM) 531082
Looking for a wife.
Orti's a nice Illithoid from the Kalas family. He's cool, funny and will use you just for the baby-making factory inside you.
If interested, call me and not Lazurus.
Orti's a nice Illithoid from the Kalas family. He's cool, funny and will use you just for the baby-making factory inside you.
If interested, call me and not Lazurus.
Ignore my brother , it's Lazurus that you really want
Unknown2008-07-13 06:09:17
QUOTE(Somaria @ Jul 10 2008, 02:57 PM) 531085
Since you all covered up my ad. -thwaps everyone-
Bumping and edited:
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Interestingly enough, Iytha is a female faeling who, amongst other sorts of mental disturbences, is slowly becoming rabidly heterophobic in a Catheresqe sort of way after her fiancé left her after six years of engagement. She is however, a closet Elostian worshiper and generally disliked by most people for being a dirty no good fae stealer.
Moiraine2008-07-13 06:23:30
QUOTE(Greleag @ Jul 13 2008, 06:09 AM) 531898
She is however, a closet Elostian worshiper
Somaria2008-07-13 08:00:19
QUOTE(Greleag @ Jul 12 2008, 10:09 PM) 531898
Interestingly enough, Iytha is a female faeling who, amongst other sorts of mental disturbences, is slowly becoming rabidly heterophobic in a Catheresqe sort of way after her fiancé left her after six years of engagement. She is however, a closet Elostian worshiper and generally disliked by most people for being a dirty no good fae stealer.
Hmmm
Iwiertas2008-07-13 19:24:59
Ahhhhh. I'm missing out on all the closet worshiping.
Then again, I may have had a hand in making that outcome come about...
Then again, I may have had a hand in making that outcome come about...
Unknown2008-07-23 14:58:41
…and so the search for a wife continues…
Name: Lazurus
Age: 87
Race: Master Viscanti
City/Org: Magnagora - Nihilists
Family: House Kalas
Manse: The Sable Fortress ( 3 rooms )
Personal: Lazurus is a very understanding and giving person. He is completely devoted to his guild and the city, leaving either is out of the question. He likes to have fun and joke around a bit, but he knows when to be serious when the situation calls for it. Lazurus can be rather shy when it comes to interacting with new people, not being sure what to say next, though if your honest and be yourself he will open up. He can be quite the flirter sometimes, loving to give lots of complements. He likes expensive things as can be seen by the clothing he wears. Family is a big part of his life and he loves to interact with is family members, has two great parents - Ixion and Athana and a ton of siblings. Lazurus is also quite skilled in the art of cooking and likes to cook for others.
Seeking: A wife that is strong willed and fun to be with. Lazurus will be very devoted and true to the one he marries till true death depart and will expect the same kind of devotion from his partner. Lazurus would love for this wife to be from Magnagora and of the same race, though others will be acceptable, just have to see how it goes. ( No citizens of Celest or stinky merians, elven or kephera. ) Need someone who is going to get along great with his family. Being used to having a lot of siblings, Lazurus wants quite a few kids, so a wife that wants a lot of kids is a must.
Well if anyone is interested just pm Lazurus in game through tells or messages.
P.S. Lazurus’s brother Orti and sister Iytha are also looking for a wife/husband. So if someone would be interested in them too, that would be great!
Name: Lazurus
Age: 87
Race: Master Viscanti
City/Org: Magnagora - Nihilists
Family: House Kalas
Manse: The Sable Fortress ( 3 rooms )
Personal: Lazurus is a very understanding and giving person. He is completely devoted to his guild and the city, leaving either is out of the question. He likes to have fun and joke around a bit, but he knows when to be serious when the situation calls for it. Lazurus can be rather shy when it comes to interacting with new people, not being sure what to say next, though if your honest and be yourself he will open up. He can be quite the flirter sometimes, loving to give lots of complements. He likes expensive things as can be seen by the clothing he wears. Family is a big part of his life and he loves to interact with is family members, has two great parents - Ixion and Athana and a ton of siblings. Lazurus is also quite skilled in the art of cooking and likes to cook for others.
Seeking: A wife that is strong willed and fun to be with. Lazurus will be very devoted and true to the one he marries till true death depart and will expect the same kind of devotion from his partner. Lazurus would love for this wife to be from Magnagora and of the same race, though others will be acceptable, just have to see how it goes. ( No citizens of Celest or stinky merians, elven or kephera. ) Need someone who is going to get along great with his family. Being used to having a lot of siblings, Lazurus wants quite a few kids, so a wife that wants a lot of kids is a must.
Well if anyone is interested just pm Lazurus in game through tells or messages.
P.S. Lazurus’s brother Orti and sister Iytha are also looking for a wife/husband. So if someone would be interested in them too, that would be great!
Shaddus2008-07-24 01:57:05
QUOTE(Greleag @ Jul 13 2008, 01:09 AM) 531898
Interestingly enough, Iytha is a female faeling who, amongst other sorts of mental disturbences, is slowly becoming rabidly heterophobic in a Catheresqe sort of way after her fiancé left her after six years of engagement. She is however, a closet Elostian worshiper and generally disliked by most people for being a dirty no good fae stealer.
Well, no offense, but what the Nil possesed you to agree to marry Zaffir anyway?
Unknown2008-07-24 03:57:05
It seemed like a good idea at the time.