Ok.. You're engaged at 17? Aren't you a bit young to even be considering marriage?

...you don't like boxes.

If girls are boxes.. what are the guys?

The nail in the box...

As for suggestions, yeah letting her down as you did might work. I've always been a proponent of seeing where everything goes just to see. You never know, you might both fall deliriously in love and have children and ... well wait till you're older for the children, but still falling in love is good!

Nails = pain

And yeah.. be nice to her, because for all you know your engagement could mess up and she could have growth spurt. Always be nice about it or else you'll get in trouble later..

Nails are better than concrete pillars.


EDIT: Murphy, recite the poem.

I don't even know how to respond to that..

Well if you dont want to follow Murphy's advice. Which I think is excellent but not always appropriate since you know time contraints (tending herd for 4 years is not exactly a short wait.)

You can say you come with a price and it aint cheap. Then you send her a bill. It wont last long since as this the low-end of the market, but it will prepare you for future work.

I always always a nice guy growing up. A really nice guy. And I got walked all over (imagine that). Not terribly, ahem, fit (I've been 20-30 lbs overweight for years, minus little fitness bits where I got in shape).

I had one 'girlfriend' at 13, but it was rather false, and then my next girlfriend wasn't until 16 (she was 4'11" btw - rode horses at horse fairs for her parents). I had about 5 relationships in those 2 yrs, and ran the gamut of bad girl to psycho-nice-super-attached-girl. I'd say the last was the worst due to that psycho-ness. Anytime you run into a girl (or guy for that matter, for the girls) who wants to talk about children before you've even really started a relationship - run, quickly. I avoided her, not answering calls, emails, etc., for a couple months, and she didn't get the message and leave me be, and it took a very serious talking to finally let her know I wasn't interested.

I couldn't help but nearly roll out of my chair laughing when I saw Murphys first reply....

As for what you should do... There are really three ways to handle that, the first two depend on whether you don't mind havin a ninth grader for a girlfriend for about three or four weeks (or more) the other is the idea everyone else... Other than Murph... have been preaching, that being let her down easy.

When I was in highschool, I had three serious girlfriends, and a few unserious ones... But I was always the nice guy and after letting one girl down... after which she hated me for a while which really bummed me out, I just cooked up a way of getting them to drop me *Laughs*... I don't remember why exactly... Usually somethin about just moving on? Look up standard Highschool 'Love' and you'll see it usually has a shelf life of about 2-3 months max... Less if you don't bother to work for it, or she tries to burn off all your friends. The pros to this way of doing things is, one, she doesn't get her heart broke, by the time she leaves you she won't care one way or another, two she won't hate you, and its possible you'll stay friends afterwards... depending how the breakup goes... And three if you don't mind going Murphs way (One I never followed), you could get a very young rather hot girlfriend for a couple months... And believe me, enjoy it while it lasts cuz after 18 years of age, those be off limits to all but eyes. The Cons... Not sure what the cons are, but if you have a phobia of being dumped, this one really isn't for you... I never had a problem with it and just shrugged it off for the ones I didn't really care about... There were a couple I seriously hated losing, but ah well... Highschool was sort of a pain in the ass for me, had its good points though.

The other way would be to follow the above but the girls too damn stubborn to leave you so you become an ass and make her hate you to death, then turn back into a nice guy after she leaves and she thinks you have an anti-relationship 'thing' so everything works out for the best...

I've decided that some of you badly need dates. Step away from the computer, go to a concert, dinner, the beach, anything normal.

Love,
Richter

Would you like to hear about MY latest series of dates, Richter? <3

You'll tell either way, no matter what he responds.

I'm not going to dignify that with a response.

But but, you were always right about me. I'm such a slut. Don't you want to hear about the four different guys I've been seeing? Sometimes two in the same night?

OI *thump Kalo* Naughty faeling *sparkle*

NO.

You sure? The one guy's name is Shawn, one is Jarred, one is Forest, one is Greg. Shawn got together with his ex again, for the 3075047504357th time, Greg is a right-wing christian gay, so that's out the window, Jarred's sweet but I rarely see him, and Forest. Well. He's Forest. <3

OMG, and then, like, I spent 300 bucks on three outfits. Jesus I've become a prep.

No further off-topic posts please.

We were talking about Tenebrae's problems, and if I'm correct, he said he'd talked to the girl already.

It's so much fun to irritate you.

And, yea, he said he talked to her.

Although I'm with Joli - you're engaged? I guess it's a culture thing.