Who's trying to have it both ways? The whole point of this thread is how deeply I care about these women as players, people, not just RP foils. Role-playing the intense familial relationship leads to intense familial feelings.

And how many times do I have to say, I stopped role-playing one-on-one romances specifically because they made my real wife uncomfortable? Because, while she sees nothing wrong with spreading the affection around, she wants it plain and clear that she's the only person in the world with a right to share those high-romance emotions with me?

If I were to role-play this sort of character recklessly, without conscience or carefully planned rules and boundaries, you bet it would be opening the door to trouble. But I've got those carefully planned rules and boundaries.

Has role-playing this type of character changed me? Deeply and profoundly. Do I like who it's changed me into? Yes. Does my wife? Yes. Is she happy her extreme-introvert of a husband has other intimate confidants so she doesn't have sole responsibility for sharing his emotional burden? Yes. Do I ever do anything I wouldn't tell her about? No.

You seriously think I'm going to suddenly scream in horror that I might turn into some sort of strong, caring, alpha male type with a deep appreciation for women, who's more interested in doing what he sees as right than in gaining the material benefits of conformity? Sorry, but I'm going to ask you to look for your irony elsewhere.

I am neither innocent nor fluffy, but I am who I wish to be.

You didn't contridict yourself, so honestly the post wasn't directed at you, as I tried to mention.

Why hasn't this thread died yet?

Obviously, dark necromantic arts. And/or the delightful scent of cheesecake. That could lure anything from it's grave.

It that what your avatar squirrel is doing, eating cheesecake niblets while cast a dark necromantic spell??