Yes I kid about the cutting myself, but sometimes it is hard to not get upset for... losing something you may have spent years trying to get.

I enjoy getting immersed, but not all aspects. But as with everything, there's pros and cons.

Pros, it's nice to delve into a world that I literally MAKE for myself and can be whomever I want to be.

Cons...getting too emotionally involved. I once cried cause I got robbed in another mud I use to play couple years ago, boy did I feel foolish! lol

Vouch. I do this all the time. Stupid? Sure. But it happens.


OH, and for S's and G's, I will play Devils Advocate here.

Sure, I am my character. If I am here, my character is here. If I am not, neither is he. If HE is not here, neither am I. If I am angry, my character is angry. If I am in a good mood, so is he. Mood for love? Sure, that sort of carries over. Pissed off at the world? Yes, I am sad to say, that carries over as well. My character is an extension of myself. And though they are obviously different, they are saddly attached.

Now that I made everyone snicker, on purpose.

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14/f/Florida

We can meet at my uncle Chris's place on Hansen boulevard...

i'm a casual RPer, i would LOVE to be at the level that some of the people in lusternia are at...I.E. Sthai Nariah, Shaddus...shoot i know there are more just harder to think of... anyway my point is as this is the first mmorpg i've played and gotten into i find it hard to believe i'll ever be at the level some players are.

Its not that i'm so much attached to Ralanbek that i will walk away and be depressed about IG events but i have trouble seperating my morals from Ralanbek's. Like for instance, he is in the Order of Fain but i find it really really hard to be backstabbing and cunning to the point of setting up an elaborate plot to do in another person's character. Since OOC i would never do that, i think i'm super loyal in RL, i'm afraid OTHER players will take it personally and not in good RP fun if i do something backstabbing or lowblowed. Another silly example is that i puppies/dogs and everytime i make Ralanbek kill a mutt just to find the one with a noose in his tummy for the easy 200 gold, my heart is a little saddened.

Anyone have any suggestions on how to make my OOC self less worried about this stuff? I dont want a person OOC to be upset at me for something Ralanbek does IG, in good natured RP fun.

thanks

I guess the best way to overcome that is to just do it. Do something, as your character, that goes completely against who you are. Prepare yourself, and just do it. It will help create a distinction between the two, or at least it did for me. Sure, you're still going to get mad and/or frustrated when things happen. You're still going to feel uneasy or squeamish when you do something you wouldn't do IRL, but the more you do it, the easier it becomes to do, and the easier it becomes to distinguish between the two. At least, that's how it works for me.

Just so there is no confusion...

If Murphy the Magnagorian hates you there is a pretty good chance that Murphy the Aussie with an alcohol problem hates you too.

In fact unless I have expressly told you otherwise, we both hate you.

I like to consciously seperate my characters from myself by imbuing them with traits I personally find reprehensible. By doing so, I ensure a certain level of detachment, precluding the possibility of emotional overlap. For example, my Paladin alt loves Xenthos.

FOURTH DEGREE BURN

I've never hated anyone for something that's happened in Lusternia. I do like trying different things, and there are many things that my characters do and like that I may not like myself. Personally I can go IC to OOC at the drop of a hat. I usually leave it up to other people to let me know that they want to talk OOC.

I personally believe that there is a little bit of me in all my characters. It's true for all of us here. That's not a bad thing, but it's something that we should be aware of. It's what makes our characters believable.

The problem is when you don't know how much of your character you should make a part of yourself. Taking too much or to little out of the game can be bad. If you get angrier outside of Lusternia, because of events in game, then you should really take a step back and take a serious look of how the game is affecting you.

Just the opposite can happen and I think it's just as bad. If you play with someone's heart in game, but don't feel anything outside of Lusternia. This can be almost as much of a problem. It's not so much that you hurt their character, but the player of that character. Even if you don't feel that strongly about what your character does, someone else might. This has never happened to me, but I feel bad when I see it happen to other people.

I'd say balance is the key. Don't go too far either way. You both are and aren't your character.

I'm an extremely angry, grudge-holding, loud, b****y alcoholic in RL.
Prisch is the picture of innocence, humility, kindness, and calm at all times.

It'S REALLY HARD.