Sounds like fun.

I keep getting the advice to "Just initiate something yourself!" ..but that doesn't work unless you get ridiculously lucky, and if you think it does, you've obviously been "in" with a group for far too long. Not meaning that in a snide way, its just the truth.

What exactly do you expect me to initiate with? I can ask someone how they're doing, they'll say fine, and then nothing. I can ask someone a question, they'll answer, and then nothing. Why does everyone assume that I haven't tried this already?

Think back to your own experiences, when someone you don't know initiates something. How often do you just give it a fraction of your attention and then wait for that person to go away so you can get back to the "important" things? Probably pretty often!

It also doesn't help that 95% of the time people at the Nexus are AFK.

Anyway, since I've only gotten a couple responses outside the "try harder!" category, and the ones I did get almost all involve me needing to be an Aeromancer, I'm not too hopeful.

Illuminati > Aeromancers.

And while it's true that initiating things yourself usually amounts to nothing, I'm surprised you haven't met at least one or two people who've had a decent conversation with you. Even with people who AFK at their respective Nexus, there are people who just hang out there because they have nothing to do and no one to talk to. ... or maybe I just need friends. ._.

Anyway. The guilds I've been in take pretty good care of their novices. There's at least one or two people who pretty much dedicate their time to checking on newcomers in most of the orgs, even if you pick a guild that's empty (because said people will check on almost everyone).

I try to talk to lots of new Hallifaxians (mostly Sents) but they mostly just ignore/shrug me off....

Change orgs.

Except that all orgs are pretty much identical in this respect? Which is why I'm looking for something beyond city/guild, really.

I can tell you for a fact that when I'm on, the Illuminati GT is pretty loud and the Gaudiguch CT is in no way 'quiet'. The Nexus is usually a pretty nice place.

EDIT: Gaudiguch also has Aoife and I, who are looking for kids/people to bring in to our family - we're sort of RP-oriented, but if you're looking for the trash that's usually put up in Chronicles that pertains to family RP.. well.. :/

My current character is in Gaudi. CT is silent and my guild doubly so.

And I'm not looking for snuggly whomping slobbery family. But I am looking for something so that I'll have someone to interact with a majority of the time.

Really, a spouse would probably be the better option, as its easier to demand their attention.

Must be in the wrong guild, then! Agree on CT, though.

Yeah, it's a matter of finding an active guild, Templar are small and quiet right now, but when I'm awake (which.. I'm unemployed so.. that is a lot) I try to interact with people. We're also building up our RP, now that most of the hangabouts are gone and we have a dedicated few to try and interest the rest of new people coming in. If you're in my guild, and I'm quiet, I do apologize because some days I just pass out staring at the screen or I'm not paying as much attention as I should be.

Besides, who doesn't want to join a super secret knighthood and have what most people consider easy advancements.

That would probably help, yes. As for the families in Gaudiguch, I don't know much about them - I keep to the Naresni business and try to do Champion stuff, plus stir trouble on GT to make people be forced to think. I can tell you I usually see very little 'glomping' going on, though.

Would it be okay to ask what guild? And what times you play?

Apparently last night I fell asleep and missed a whole bunch of tells, I am so sorry if one was yours. ._.

Not mine. You're actually talking to me right now, though

Ooooh! I know who you are, you're awesome!

Do what?


Anyway, Illuminati is where it's at right now. But the other two guilds are doing their best, considering about 90% of the population went to the Illuminati, and pretty much left the Pyros and Templars with the bare bones of the bunch. You're probably feeling that empty void right now. :3

You weren't there yesterday for the fiasco I caused with the specific intent of bestowing some kind of hokey-pokey lesson to everybody on GT.

I rather enjoy watching people make themselves look like geniuses/idiots with inane questions. I can't imagine what kind of question you asked that could possibly improve on that.

Maybe I'll make an alt and check on you.

Believe it or not, I've found that a good way to start interactions with people is to ask them what their title means. If it's a guild title, you can continue asking questions about it, the guild, etc., and if it's a personal title they chose or made up, you get to learn a little more about them.

I have to agree with earlier replies, you just have to get in people's faces to be noticed. One way I try to engage people with (and try to draw them in if they ask themselves) is Ministry or Guild work that I do. Being my actors for plays, writing reviews for Library projects, cataloguing books, writing essays/articles, come up with event/contest ideas - all those cultural things. Similarly for the Guild, try to find something you are unsure about and inquire about that specific side of teachings/history or whatnot.

The greatest problem new players will come up against is the fact most players who would love to roleplay with them, and who do not fill their days with just bashing/influencing/raiding, are simply already quite busy. The amount of things I have to do daily is just staggering and whilst I could brush some people off with just handling things via tells, I ask them over for tea and a chat. And that, frankly, takes quite a chunk out of my day. If you want to get in touch with people like that, you should try to get involved with what they do. So bug, say, a Minister of Power over his worries about power issues or ask what you could do to help. Or simply ask if anyone needs anything, even tasks so simple as going to fetch something - you'll have made a connection!

Get involved in as many things as possible! Family, Order, Guild, City, Ministries, contests, hunts, even raids (at least to be noticed!).

What Nariah said — that, I can dig. Very insightful commentary.

Whenever Felicia has gotten involved with something (even something as simple as the Theater Games), talking points are created and social opportunities present themselves. If you're not sure what's out there to get involved in, usually there are pointers somewhere in the CHELP and GHELP files.

I still do think people should strive to make connections outside of this context, though, when and if they can find the time, if only to create a more gregarious atmosphere in general.